Many, many guys who truly admire the efforts and results of a woman’s physique from months (or years) of hard training end up sitting at home or the office behind a computer. They never have the actual experience of meeting muscular women in large numbers, or they may have only one or two at the local gym. Those experiences usually don’t go well, so they end up with messed-up beliefs about what the women are truly like.
Remember one thing about this website’s content: the type of women (regardless of the physique) that you want to meet, who have the highest possible blend of all great traits (emotional, physical, intellectual, etc.), are still women on the inside. No matter how much muscle, no matter how much they can bench press (and never EVER start with that as your opening line!), or no matter how they look they are still women. It is your job to make her feel beautiful for unique, rare things that no one else understands about her plus give her the chance to truly grow as a woman for being in your company. You have to add value to her life and not just money, a place to stay (on your dime), or other superficial stuff.
Also, be sure that you have the ability to walk away from any woman whose values and behaviors are vastly out of line with your values. Some differences are natural, but huge discrepancies only will lead to bad outcomes if there is no attempt by BOTH parties to get to a more mature level.
The question is, how do you walk away from a muscular gorgeous woman when there aren’t many (or any!) of them in your life?
A simple answer is to go where there are dozens of muscular, beautiful women. Consider going to a show/contest. For example, here is the upcoming schedule of NPC events:
If, however, you have some screwed up notions about women (misogyny, inferiority due to abuse in your home growing up, etc.) then do NOT go. Get your head right about what is good behavior and how to change your thinking. Go to therapists, get deep-level change work done on your beliefs, and minimize the emotional impact that any traumatic events in your past. This way you will be in a space where you add value to any woman regardless of where you meet her.
Assuming that your head is in the right space, go to a show with no intention other than to be a cool guy. Go to the expo booths and simply talk for a minute or two and move onto the next booth. Go with purpose of just to enjoy the atmosphere like you would if you went to a sporting event. Talk about actual cool things in the industry, ask questions, and have some basic etiquette! Hold the door for a woman, be cool to people in the audience if they have kids, and just relax. Get out of your own head and simply walk around in a state of curiosity to learn more about people, including some of the guys.
Women who get hit on all day long, or get messed up approaches (most muscular women have a few stories of truly dreadful men approaching them!), tend to notice energy in men. They want to see a man who is comfortable with himself, charismatic, has at least basic courtesy, and understands the larger picture. Have interesting things to discuss about the world, have a playful and adventurous spirit, and act like you truly can make any woman there feel unique and special.
You are not there to get any phone numbers, “hook ups”, pay for sessions (stop that and save your money!), nor to get a date for next week. Just test out the environment and begin to see the women behind the muscles. You will begin to see an entire range of:
- Wretched people (hey, it happens to show up in large groups) such as genuine narcissistic women, gold diggers, those who are mean, and those who are unprofessional. Stay away, no matter how good looking, because you virtually always will pay an unwanted price
- Genuinely nice women. You may meet some whose energies are simply amazing. Kind, funny, authentic, warm, loving, and feminine. Those are the traits you want to find
- Vulnerable. In a conference room full of athletic women, many women (internally) may be talking to themselves about their perceived flaws. Respect that this may be going on but also that such emotions can be changed by humor, warmth, playfulness and genuine masculine energy. Be cool, especially if you see this because there isn’t much worse than a guy making a woman feel even more awful if he knows she is in a vulnerable state
- Bland. Despite the muscles, there may be some women there who are just bland. They don’t have much to talk about with anyone (not just you) because their lives are work, the gym, and family. There is nothing wrong with this, but they may be more difficult to talk to simply because their worlds aren’t very big. Again, be cool and move on and have her see you being cool with everyone there. It may spark her interest to talk more with you
Obviously, stay away from those who are with boyfriends or husbands. You should do this anyway with non-muscular women, so don’t start down that path even if she is the most amazing woman you have ever seen. Again, be a cool guy who has a calm confidence about himself and the women will notice.
Going to a contest and being a cool character simply helps you begin to blast through scarcity. Instead of knowing just one or two muscular women, you will say hi and talk to dozens. This allows you to focus on traits and characteristics instead of muscles, which is where your focus should be anyway.
Again, don’t go if you have all sorts of messed up traits. There are enough bad guys in the world who mess up women’s minds and their worlds… let alone their families, kids, and friends. Get your head right first. Once set, go have fun just being curious until being around a muscular woman doesn’t make you tongue-tied or act like a dork.
